Thursday, November 6, 2014

Term 4 new series

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Thursday, October 23, 2014

Term 4 starts this Monday oct 27

Join us this Monday October 27 for a new term of Meaningful motherhood.
 This weeks topic,׳happy birthday- how to make your child's birthday a meaningful and special day' we would love to hear your ideas too!

Look out for a new guest speaker series on the topic ' Wholesome kitchen - understanding the nutritional and spiritual value of the food we eat.  starting Nov 3. 

Looking fwd to seeing you and Shabbat Shalom
Shterny and Nechama Dina 
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Sunday, July 20, 2014

New term starting tomorrow

 Meaningful motherhood discussion group will be starting tomorrow Monday 21 July
10am for 10:15am start- 11:00 at Nefesh. 
This weeks topic,''Happy mum, happy bub' strategies to increase the joy in our lives.
Stay tuned for more info about upcoming speakers. 
Looking forward to seeing you
Shterny and Nechama Dina 
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Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Term 2 outline -note new time 10:15-11:30


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Sunday, May 4, 2014

New term new topics !

NEW TERM - Meaningful motherhood will resume NEXT Monday May 12 for a three wk session with psychologist Rene Mill 

New time for these 3 sessions is 10:30-11:30 @ Nefesh 


Session outline. 

1. Understanding your child's behaviour

2. "Educating you child according to his way"

3. Fun ways of gaining cooperation


There will be another 2 sessions mid June with another guest speaker. Info to come soon. Just in case you can't make it check out our blog www.jewishmothersgroupsydney.blogspot.com

Hope to see you then! 


Shterny and Nechama Dina 

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Sunday, March 23, 2014

Reminder Tomorrow's talk

De cluttering 101- Organising ourselves and our kids

Hear from expert organiser Karen Koedding from the company 'A little elf' as she shares her tips and tricks on how to be more efficient and organised in our home. Bring along a picture of any part of your house and Karen will be happy to give you some advice! 

All Moms are welcome EVEN if your little, or big ones are at daycare or school.

Hosted at Nefesh 54 Roscoe st Monday March 24 
9:30-10:00 morning tea 
10:00-11:00  talk and Q & A  


This is our last session for the term. Looking forward to seeing you.
Shterny and Nechama Dina 
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Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Notes from Jodie's talk- dealing with difficult behaviours

Encouraging positive toddler behaviour

 

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Always remember what is normal Preschoolerbehaviour.
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Use your knowledge of what’s normal, be sensible and creative…..go with the flow.
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Rough patches are a given
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It’s important to find ways around the rough patches and enjoy the wonder of your Preschooler.
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Preschoolers don’t have sense but parents need sensible explanations.
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We are not aiming for perfect children.
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Remember to enjoy this marvelous and fun time

 

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What are the key characteristics of a Preschooler?
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Livewire!
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Fun
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Innocent
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Imaginative
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Active
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Lacking in sense- minimum sense and maximum mobility
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Powerful
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Poor appreciation for the rights of others
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Self-centred
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Ten-minute time frame (consider consequences)
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Crave attention
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Ask lots of questions
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Often stubborn
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Separate poorly from parents (esp < 3years)
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Busy
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Little respect for others’ property
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Blind to mess
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Change their minds frequently
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Interrupt
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Sensitive

 

Most older preschoolers:

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Can start to control impulsive behaviour
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Can wait (though not for too long)
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Can control their tantrums
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Can separate from their parents and be left with friends
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Will usually play together with other children
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Wonderfully imaginative and creative

 

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What trigger’s toddlers’ behaviour?
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Attention Seeking
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Provide your Preschooler with as much high quality attention as possible.
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Directly related to well-being
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Giving this to your child will benefit both of you.

 

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Jealousy

1. Arrival of a new baby

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Most will manage reasonably well
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Preschooler can feel threatened if the parent doesn’t consider the Preschooler’s point of view.
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Involve the Preschooler with the baby.
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Ask the Preschooler to “help”- makes them feel important.

 

2. Sibling rivalry

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Competing with a sibling can bring out some unpleasant preschooler behaviours
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Younger siblings become frustrated when they cannot do what their older sibling can. And vice versa.
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Again: make sure every child is getting adequate high quality attention
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3. Other adults
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When you chat to friends
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Most of us will try and reason with the toddler- needless frustration!
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Try and be brief and choose your timing carefully

 

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4. Other kids
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My house, my toy.
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Encourage sharing but don’t expect too much reason.
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Often better to divert/distract/keep them busy with something else.
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Don’t be embarrassed by poor sharing- it’s normal and we all go through it!
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Let him know that sharing is something you would like him to do but don’t force the issue.
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Notice and praise any sharing that does take place

 

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5. frustration
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Ideas way beyond capabilities
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Accept a certain amount of tantrum throwing as normal
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It’s a normal part of learning. Best to provide understanding and encouragement

 

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6. Fear of separation
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Commences around 7 months, peaks at around 1 year and slowly diminishes over the next 3 years.
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Increases during transitions, stressful periods, holidays.
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Be forgiving, don’t rush it, usually sorts itself out over time.

 

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7. Unsettled environment
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Consider periods where there are changes in the environment.
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Try to ride with the punches
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Revisit expectations
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Create as much structure and predictability as possible
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Give even more high quality attention.

 

TANTRUMS

What causes tantrums?

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In younger toddlers- frustration
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Older toddlers- more intentional, can build the performance
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By age 4, most tantrums have waned

Look at the cause:

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Frustration- (Commonly the case in Under 2s-
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Provide care and comfort
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divert attention and move on.
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Open defiance (often in 3 years+):  
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if the aim is to openly defy parents’ authority-
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Stand firm
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Diffuse
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Discipline
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Tackling the tantrum
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Remember- just as we did with other behaviour:
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Divert
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Ignore
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Time out
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How many steps you use depends on degree of tantrum
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DO NOT give in to the manipulation and drama if it is wilful defiance. This reinforces the very behaviour you want to change.

 

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Public tantrums
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Try to avoid shopping with your pre-schooler- late night shopping, grandparents etc
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If you have to bring him/her along, try weekends, bring your partner , shop at less busy times.
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Most importantly, if it’s an ongoing issue, plan to manage home tantrums before tackling public.

 

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Other considerations
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Ask yourself why you are saying No.
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Look out for behaviour we do want and reward with praise.
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Be sensible, don’t discipline if you don’t need to.
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Remember they can pick up on your own stress and when this is the case, a tantrum is more likely to happen. Do you need stress management help yourself?
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Take home message
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Try and ride with the punches
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Revisit expectations
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Create as much structure and predictability as possible
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Give lots of high quality attention.

 

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